Monday, May 3, 2010

The one where I'm embarrassingly dense

I seem to be on a Babydoll blogging kick these days, maybe that's because I've put her up for sale 12 times in the last couple weeks.  Just yesterday I told Spence that I was selling her to the highest bidder.  Babydoll was really driving me crazy, and I was so busy being mad at her and putting "sale" stickers on her forehead that I didn't realize the extremely, ridiculously, embarrassing to not have realized it sooner reason for her misbehavior.... SHE WANTED ATTENTION!  Excuse me while I slap myself on the forehead. 

I realized one evening that I hadn't been paying any more attention to her than I was to the other kids in my life.  I had been paying just as much attention to her as I had to my daycare kids, plenty of attention I must add, but it wasn't enough for her.  I am HER mom and she wanted a little extra attention.  After work I would jump into the kitchen and start making dinner while Spence would spend time with the kids.  By the time dinner with my little screamer (aka Little Man) was over and stuff was put away I was exhausted and didn't do much of anything until a couple hours after the kids went to bed.  This was time I should have spent paying more attention to my kids outside of daycare hours. 

After this realization I started taking time several times a day to cuddle with Babydoll.  A few minuets here and there to pull her into my lap and hold her in my arms.  Boy did she need that!  All three of our kids are big cuddlers and I had neglected my snuggle duties! 

Her behavior instantly changed!  She was calmer, I was calmer, my daycare kids were calmer, and we all got more cuddles in our day!  This morning I forgot to fit in some cuddle time with Babydoll and she reverted to that behavior that wound her up on a clearance rack.  I of course remembered my former revelation and her afternoon was a whole lot better!

So in a nutshell, Babydoll needs extra cuddles in her day, and that's a behavior modifier I can thoroughly get behind!

3 comments:

Prairie Mother said...

That was hilarious! I want to sell mine all the time. Isn't it funny how obvious things are sometimes and we STILL miss them! Glad to hear the snuggles have done the trick!

Jodi said...

I'm glad to see a mommy who picks up on the fact that her toddler needs some lovin' and is embarrassed to have not picked up on it sooner!

Obviously kids act up for a variety of reasons, but I know a kid or two who act up for this exact reason and although its painfully obvious to those around them, unfortunatly their mommies and/or daddies are unendingly dense and oblivious. And its heartbreaking... :(

Babydoll is lucky to have you!! ;)

T,A,K,E said...

My daughter is still traumatized because I once told her I would sale her to the gypsies. The things we say as mom's. Right?

so is this helping with the sleeping?

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